Ask a Therapist: Dealing with Child’s Deep Distress after Adulthood Disclosure
A recipient parent seeks advice and resources to address her daughter's deep distress from the late disclosure of being donor conceived.
A recipient parent seeks advice and resources to address her daughter's deep distress from the late disclosure of being donor conceived.
A recipient parent wonders how to discuss their child's donor siblings and when to establish a relationship.
I’m sure I said, “It’s actually a ‘donor’ not a father.” I can remember my voice saying, “Our daughter doesn’t have a dad. She has two moms.” But much of that changed for me when I found out about my own donor conception experience.
"I joke with people that my first thought was, 'I’ve been diluted.' And as humorous as it may be to joke that finding out I was half white contributed to a sense of identity or cultural 'dilution,' it simultaneously created an incomparable sadness that took years to deconstruct."