Ask a Therapist: Discussing and Building Relationships with Donor Siblings
A recipient parent wonders how to discuss their child's donor siblings and when to establish a relationship.
A recipient parent wonders how to discuss their child's donor siblings and when to establish a relationship.
The Uniform Law Commission announced the official amendment of Article 9 of the Uniform Parentage Act which will now require gamete banks to provide a donor’s identifying information to a resulting adult donor conceived person upon request. USDCC played an active role in securing this amendment.
An intended parent wonders about the best way to choose a donor for the benefit of the future child.
USDCC sought to collect data on sperm banks across the United States. A survey was conducted in which sperm bank websites were reviewed for relevant data and then those data were confirmed via contact with representatives from each bank.
A former sperm donor with at least 96 donor offspring shares the five things he wishes he had known before donating.
Parents who want to keep donor conception a secret are usually trying to protect their child from emotional and relationship distress, but secrets are no guarantee of protection. Just as anonymity is hard to protect for a lifetime, genetic information is hard to keep secret for a lifetime.
Deciding to use donor sperm or eggs is often a result of a fertility complication. In this emotional process, the consideration of how donor conceived people (DCP) will feel about their conception is often overlooked.
If you haven't told your family that you donated sperm or eggs, read this guide.
Short answer: no. Regardless of the contract or paperwork a donor signs, it is simply unrealistic to believe any donor can remain anonymous.